How We Romanticize Love-

How We Romanticize Love-

Ideas Taken From an Exclusive and Inclusive Standpoint

Author's Note: There are many different types of love. Feelings of admiration and respect often begin in friendships and turn into long-term, lasting love later. The perspectives of such love can be viewed through both exclusive and inclusive individuals.

Without further ado- 

One cannot write about this topic and be completely neutral- there is always something which speaks to experience, though on different levels . . .

We can romanticize things like admiration and respect, without making them feel sexual. These are feelings which we might retain for our friends, uniformly, but will never be made into anything more than pure friendship.

How then, do they grow a romantic bud?

Well . . . it is easy enough to surmise.

The linear concept of love is one which may be factored. A romanticist who is searching for a mutually exclusive relationship, would most likely seek it in the one would emanates those kinds of sentiments. This person has generally grown up thinking that they will meet someone to love, and thus expect it; thus, he/she who is responsible for the admiration and general regard, is soon elevated to greater status. Eventually, romance becomes part of the relationship.

In the concept described, the ideal person who harbors these feelings are the quiet, sentimental- and oftentimes artistic type. They do not reach out to dozens of people, but rather keep to their solitude, preferring to having one or two, trusted people in their circle. They are exclusive because of their natural tendencies, and thus love others in a more exclusive sense-

This is one way of looking at it. But, supposing a person has grown up having a different perspective? There is the matter of difference, for instance, in the bisexual, or in one who dates people (and this occur as dating several people at once, or dating others over a shorter time frame, in my mind). The concept of love is different in this case, and more dynamic; I call it the 'inclusive love type.' It is not so natural to harbor deep, steadfast feelings of admiration and respect- these feelings are more expansive. They tend to know more people, but less of the individual. Thus, they harbor loose feelings of respect, but it is of a less passionate nature, because they know others less-

They are, most likely, less easily hurt in the case of losing one of their friends. Rather, shall we say they are wounded less deeply. Their circle of society is wider than in the case of the former individual. In the case of the former, quieter, more artistic soul, loss of person may be the equivalent of loss of limb- such is the nature of their being . . .

Although one is not more effective than the other, it does explain why the idea of romance is so dynamic. Love is one of the most greatly misunderstood topics. Because people are nurtured into a specific type, confusion most often occurs when exchanging the ides on that type with someone-

The truth of the matter is, that love is both exclusive and inclusive. We may see it according to our unique beliefs. Feelings of admiration, respect and esteem will often grow into something else, often with romantic connotations to it. The process of arriving at a romantic conclusion, however, is different for each person. It would be impossible to judge the nature of love from a holistic standpoint. Different ways of attaching those feelings with love, make more sense to different people. The idea is quite flexible . . .

There is, simply put, no singular way to speak about love.